….IS THE SAFEST PLACE TO BE….

As a Actress, I’ve been asked on  a number of occasions “do you find it hard to switch off from acting?”…or “Are you always acting?”…..for both the answer is “no”…..however I do see where those questions may arise…..

When I’m at work in an “acting” capacity (ie I’ve learnt my lines and studied deeply into the character:why she does what she does…..why she thinks/moves/feels/reacts as she does etc)……by the end of the filming I’m quite often exhausted…….and leave my character behind once I hear “It’s a wrap”….

It’s then back to being me……The me that I know and trust, and the one that I hope anyone who knows me also knows and trusts…

My reasons for writing this article is down to my varied and hectic start to 2018.

So…I apologise for the decrease in bloggs……however 2018 took off right from the word go on the “too busy” scale… (A blogg on stress v pressure and another on time management will follow soon)…

Back to my point though……and it’s quite simply that in order to achieve so many things in life that you may be interested in…..if they are vast, and exciting, and pull you in alsorts of different directions, and stretch what you think your capabilities are beyond belief, ( especially when dealing with a wide and varied range or society)…..then not being yourself…..and “Putting on a false front” will only end up in disaster….The disaster being how you feel within yourself.  Yes a slight “front” or exaggerated style of delivery may be what most of us do in day to day life…be it in our personal lives or in business……however a “front” so far from your own true self, and one that has to be “performed” everyday…..if you’re not an Actor can lead you to the beginning of the end.

Stepping out of character and doing something that those around you feel “isnt you” can have a detrimental affect on friendships and relationships…….once people lose their trust in you, then it can change relationships forever.

This year for me has proven exactly that.. If I hadn’t been myself through all of the massively divers work that I have taken on then I’m not sure where I wold have ended up…..)I feel in a hospital bed somewhere)…….but what I’ve had to do is to slightly “tweak” Nichola Dixon Donnely according to my audience/different  relationships at work…..and tweak only until the appropriate element that is required is working …….then……I simply continue being me.

After all……whoever you are ….it’s “you” that those around you…..those that have invited you/employed you/trusted you are interested in……..they’re not looking for someone else……otherwise they would…..well….find someone else.

Seems too simpl hey…..well …it is that simple…..What isn’t simple is “acting” like someone else all day and trying to be someone else.  (Unless of course you are an actress)….then remember…..that people”order you”……so they expect “you” when they arrive…..(not a different version of you)

So…….thank goodness for that…..they are of course only my thoughts……but it’s a good feeling. For me personally I’ve climbed some  huge mountains and overcome so many fears already this year…I’ve also faced people and situations that I’d normally shy away from (that’s where I’ve had to bring in and “tweak” the version of “me” to achieve what I needed)…….but mostly I’ve done it all by being me. Truly, sincerely and honestly……x